Should I buy flowers or some kind of jewelry gift for my ex girlfriend?

It’s the “obvious” thing to do.

At least, that’s what most guys seem to think. They want to get back with their ex girlfriend and so …

They decide they should buy some kind of a gift for their ex girlfriend.

Flowers are usually one of the first things that come to mind.

Jewelry also usually pops up as one of the options as well.

So …

Should you send flowers to your ex girlfriend?

The answer is a big fat No.

You shouldn’t send her flowers. And the reason for that is pretty easy to digest. Because it’s about …

Timing.

See, when she’s your ex girlfriend and you aren’t really on track to getting back together?

The timing is off.

Way off.

And so, it’s going to change the way she interprets your gift. This is not just true for flowers. It’s true for pretty much any gift you can think of. Think about it. If you are attracted to someone and they send you a gift?

You generally love it.

No matter what it is.

But …

If that attraction has someone gone away and they send you a gift?

Even if you love the actual thing they sent you … you usually don’t love the fact that it was them who sent it to you.

And that’s what really matters here.

It’s the WHO who is behind the gift.

So if you shouldn’t send flowers to an ex girlfriend … what should you do?

First, focus on the no contact rule. Follow it. As much as you may want to reach out to your ex girlfriend …

Practice and exercise some self control.

It’s not going to have the effect on her you want it to have. It’s not going to make her come running back into your arms.

Next …

Learn how to rebuild the attraction with her.

This is the thing that’s REALLY missing. This is the missing piece. The one thing that’ll make it so you don’t have to send her anything at all … unless you like to.

When the attraction is back … when she is thinking about you when you are not around …

That is the perfect time to send her a little something.

And it doesn’t have to be all that impressive. It doesn’t have to be a dozen long-stem roses or diamond jewelry or anything like that.

A little token of your affection will suffice.

Because it is the attraction that matters most.

The other thing about wanting to give your ex girlfriend gifts like flowers and jewelry is …

Most guys think of it as being a shortcut. A simple thing they can do that’s going to get them exactly what they want. They imagine the process of attracting their ex girlfriend back is just going to be way too hard. Take way too long and so, they imagine that if they send a simple gift … it will do all the “hard” work for them.

Truth is, winning back an ex girlfriend doesn’t have to be that hard.

Not when you truly understand exactly what to do to make her feel like she wants you …

And only you.

Would you like to know how to do just that?

5 Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Wants You Back

Okay.

So if you think about it,  in some ways,  we don’t really evolve all that much from high school.  Back then,  you probably wondered about whether or not a certain girl liked you.  You tried to look for “clues” that would help you out.  And if you are like most guys,  most of the time … you got it wrong!

Don’t feel bad.

We all went through that before.

But the good news is,  you don’t have to sweat it out like you did in high school.  You can learn a few ways to figure out if your ex girlfriend likes you and look for those ‘tells’ and be right more often than not.

We’re going to go through 5 ways to figure out if your ex girlfriend likes you or not in this post.

Cool?

Let’s get crackin’ then.

The first way to figure out if your ex girlfriend likes you or not …

She can’t stop laughing at all your corny jokes.

To be able to see this,  you have to be brutally honest about which jokes of yours are really corny.  A lot of guys don’t have this self-awareness.  They actually think their corny jokes … aren’t so corny.  You gotta be able to be honest enough if you want to be able to tell if she’s laughing at your corny jokes.

The second way to figure out if your ex girlfriend likes you or not …

She wants to change you.

It might sound a bit stereotypical.  But there’s a good reason for the stereotype of women wanting to change guys they like.  It’s what they do.  It might be a bit annoying.  And it might make you think that she doesn’t like you so much if she’s always trying to change you.  But most of the time,  it means that she likes you.  That’s why she wants you to change.  So you become “perfect” boyfriend material.

The third way to figure out if your ex girlfriend still likes you or not …

She’s dropping hints that you and her should hang out.

This is one that should be kind of obvious.  But it’s not always.  Not to all guys.  Even if the thing she wants to do with you isn’t what you want to do … You have to be able to read between the lines.  It means that she wants to spend time with you doing the things she likes,  which almost always means she likes you.  Otherwise,  she wouldn’t want you to come and hang.

The fourth way to figure out if your ex girlfriend likes you or not …

She likes to challenge you on your opinions.

This is closely related to her wanting to change you.  A lot of women like to challenge a guy they like to see what he does.  Does he change his opinions?  Does he hold his ground?  Whatever she’s looking for,  it’s almost always a sign that she’s feeling interested in you and of course,  that’s a good thing.

The fifth way to figure out if your ex girlfriend likes you or not …

She’s showing non-stop body language signs that she’s attracted to you.

These can be subtle.  And if you don’t know what to look for,  you could end up missing out on most of them.  Plenty of times,  I’ve seen friends getting all sorts of body language signs from a woman … and they don’t even know it.  You want to learn at least a little bit about what body language signs women give off when they are attracted to a guy.  Because if you don’t know … You could end up missing out on getting back with your ex girlfriend.

The 30 day no contact rule – what is it and how does it work?

So … we’re going to talk about the 30 day no contact rule. You may have heard of this already and you may not have.

For that reason …

We’re going to first look at the basics of what it is and how it works:

What is the 30 day no contact rule?

Simply put … It’s a simple rule of thumb saying that you should go 30 days without contact with your ex girlfriend. Even though that is probably the last thing you want to do … there’s a good reasoning for this 30 day period.

Think of it like a relationship “time out” or a “cooling off” period.

Is it really that simple?

Yep. Try not to make it more complicated than it is. The beauty is in the simplicity of it. Lots of times, guys will ask a million questions about the no contact rule when really all they need to know is … Go around 30 days without contact.

Simple is usually better.

Of course, I know all too well that me saying to keep it simple … isn’t going to be enough. You probably still have questions … so I’m going to give you answers.

What is the psychology of the 30 day no contact rule?

It’s a mixture of things really.

1) You get the chance to put away old baggage related to the relationship.

If you are going to win her back and make it work this time around, all the old baggage has to be put down. You have to leave what is in the past … in the past. Hopefully she’ll do the same. But even if she doesn’t … all you can really control is what you do. The 30 day no contact period allows you to let go of any emotions that would sabotage you later on down the road.

2) You get the chance to work on yourself.

Time to tuck your pride away for a minute. We all have things we can work on. The 30 day no contact period gives you time to do just that. Part of what’s going to work to win her back is appearing “brand new” in some shape or form. And you can’t appear brand new if she hears from you or sees you all of the time.

3) She gets to feel the psychology of “loss.”

This is that ol’ … absence makes the heart grow fonder in action. She can’t really miss you or wish you were around … if you are always around. This 30 day period allows her to feel like what life is really like without you around.

4) You get to see if you really want her back.

Okay … so when you lose a woman … when the relationship ends … it’s painful. And what do we want to do? We want to end that pain and often we assume that getting her back is going to do the trick.

But quite often …

A lot of guys do find that they actually DON’T want her back after they have 30 days with no contact.

This is because when all the emotions are let go of … when you are getting on with your life and having fun and working on yourself …

You may just find that you actually want a NEW and BETTER girlfriend.

How long should you go with no contact with your ex girlfriend?

30 days. Kinda why it’s called the 30 day no contact rule. Although, that shouldn’t be seen as set in stone completely. Sometimes a few days less and sometimes a few day more will do the trick. Truth is, any guy who’s been pestering his ex girlfriend or coming across as really needy?

He might need more than 30 days.

Does the 30 day no contact period always work to win back an ex girlfriend?

Nope. Not always. To be totally blunt about it … the reality is that some couples should not be together. This is why one of the benefits I already mentioned was that you might find you actually don’t want your ex girlfriend back after all.

That may be a good thing.

Plenty of guys have pined away for a girl … only to find later on that when they look back on her?

They really wouldn’t want to be with her again anyways.

Does no contact with your ex girlfriend mean you can’t text her?

Yep. Texting is a form of contact. No texting for 30 days. If she texts you and it would come across cold and rude if you don’t reply at all … a simple, “Hey I’m really busy right now” might be in order.

Does no contact with your ex girlfriend also mean you can’t message her on Facebook or Instagram?

Exactly. No contact means you even have to cut off contact online. There are no loopholes here. It’s about cutting off contact for 30 days.