100 Questions to ask your ex girlfriend

It’s not always easy to come up with the right questions to ask your ex girlfriend.  It’s very easy to find yourself stumped for something to say to her.  If you’ve ever felt that way or feel that way right now,  then keep reading.  You are going to get some starter questions that can help get her talking,  help you build rapport and attraction with her … and make sure that you don’t have any awkward silences when you are around your ex girlfriend.

Truth is,  as long as you are relaxed and comfortable … and she feels relaxed and comfortable … you can ask her just about anything and it will get the conversation flowing.  And that’s the point.  To get the conversation flowing.

This page is going to help you do just that.

Now,  I do want to make it clear that this is not an end-all,  be-all kind of list.  This is really just to get you started.  So that you don’t feel as though you have nothing to ask your ex girlfriend or nothing to get a conversation flowing with her.

The good thing about questions is … as long as you don’t make it seem like you are asking too many at once …

They almost always work to get conversation going.

So use this list as a starter.  But come up with some of your own.  That way,  it doesn’t seem as though you’ve rehearsed anything.


Here are 100 quick questions to ask your ex girlfriend that can get the conversation flowing with her:

1. How did your day go today?

2. Who would you say is your best friend?

3. Why do you consider them to be your best friend?

4. What group do you consider to be your favorite band?

5. Why do you consider them your favorite band?

6. What is your absolute favorite kind of music?

7. What concert did you go to that was your favorite?

8. Why was that your favorite concert? What happened there?

9. What type of day would you consider to be a perfect day.

10. What would you do on your perfect day?

11. Who would you be with on that day and why that person?

12. Do you like sushi?

13. Do you agree that men are hard to understand?

14. Do blondes really have more fun?

15. Have you ever dyed your hair?

16. Would you ever dye your hair?

17. Would you ever get a tattoo?

18. What would you get a tattoo of and why that tattoo?

19. Do you like coffee?

20. What was the worst class you ever took in school?

21. What was the best class you ever took in school?

22. Have you ever had a pet?

23. Do you like animals?

24. What is your favorite animal and why that animal?

25. Do you know how to drive a stick shift?

26. What was the best date you ever went on like?

27. What was the WORST date you ever went on like?

28. When did you have your first kiss?

29. Do you like your job/career?

30. Why did you choose that job./career?

31. Do you like to play video games?

32. Do you like guys who play video games?

33. Are sports something that you like to do?

34. What sport is your absolute favorite?

35. What sport is the most boring in the whole world to you?

36. How many pairs of shoes do you own?

37. Are you one of those girls who is addicted to shoes?

38. What’s the first word that comes to mind when you hear the word, dating?

39. If you could travel anywhere in the world and spend a week there, where would it be?

40. Why would pick that place, is there any special reason?

41. Have you ever been to a foreign country?

42. Do you like traveling?

43. Why is the Keeping Up With The Kardashians such a hit?

44. Do you watch a lot of television?

45. What is the best show on television in your eyes?

46. If you could never watch television again, would you freak out?

47. Did you go to your high school prom?

48. Did you like the guy you went to the prom with?

49. If you could do it all over again, would that guy you went to the prom with be your first choice?

50. What was your first day of college like?

51. Did you do more partying or studying in college?

52. Ever have a crush on one of your professors?

53. Have you ever broken a guy’s heart?

54. Have you ever competed with a friend for a guy?

55. Has a guy ever come between you and one of your friends?

56. Do you still watch cartoons ever?

57. If you do, what cartoon is it and why?

58. Have you ever lied to your parents about something?

59. How long do you have to be dating a guy to introduce him to your family?

60. Have you ever kissed another girl?

61. What was the was the worst job that you ever had to do?

62. Were you popular in high school?

63. Do you still hang out with the same friends from high school or college?

64. Have you ever had sex in public?

65. Have you ever made out in public?

66. Did you ever get caught fooling around with someone?

67. Is cheating okay?

68. Has anyone ever broken your heart?

69. Have you ever been cheated on?

70. What is your favorite subject to read up on?

71. If you had to choose between television and books, what would you choose, honestly?

72. What is the stupidest thing you ever spent money on?

73. Do you know how to cook?

74. What would you cook for me and why?

75. Do you like guys who know how to cook?

76. What was your funniest summer camp experience?

77. Were you a geek in the band? Don’t lie…

78. Would you date a guy who was in a band?

79. What do you think about ‘open’ relationships?

80. Is the 3 day rule to call a woman, silly or the right thing?

81. How many dates does it take for you to know that you really like a guy?

82. What would your friends say is your BEST quality?

83. What would your friends say is your WORST quality?

84. Do you like lazy Sundays?

85. Which is better, hot or cold weather?

86. Do you know how to ski or ice skate?

87. What would be the most romantic thing a guy can do for a woman?

88. Do you think that love stinks?

89. Are you a closet computer geek?

90. Would you say that you were a typical woman?

91. Did you ever like ‘boy bands’ like One Direction?

92. Do you like clubs or bars or neither?

93. What is the longest you have gone without sex?

94. Which is better, Spring or Fall?

95. What do you prefer, beer or wine?

96. Would you ever call in sick to work to just go out and have fun?

97. How do you like to be kissed?

98. What is your favorite place to be touched?

99. Have you ever had a crush on a woman?

100. Do I ask too many questions?

Truth is,  there are lots of questions you can ask your ex girlfriend.  Anything that you can think of that will help you get to know her better,  to make her feel like talking to you is fun,  or anything that builds attraction and rapport is going to be a good question to ask.

And remember,  timing is everything.  Ask a question at the wrong time and you might not like the result.  But ask it at the right time and it just might appear to be the perfect thing to say to her.

Texting Your Ex Girlfriend Late at Night – 3 Things to Avoid

Question:  I have been sending a few text messages here and there to my ex girlfriend and she seems to be receptive to them. One thing that I have wondered is, what is the deal with sending texts late at night. I usually get the urge to text her when I am sitting at home, watching television and a lot of the times, that means late at night. What are some things that I need to avoid doing if I am going to text her late at night?

Answer:  10 or 15 years ago, the question would have been pretty much the same, except that you would have been asking about calling her late at night and not texting. So, this isn’t some unknown territory. Guys have gotten that urge late at night to call up an ex girlfriend for decades and now when they get the urge, it’s about texting and not calling. Still, most of those old school principles are the same.

Here are three things that you want to avoid if you are thinking about texting her late at night:

1. You want to avoid texting her too late.

You should have some idea of what her schedule is. If she goes to bed at 11 pm, you don’t want to text her too close to that time or after that time. Stay within a couple of hours of her bedtime, so if her habit is to go to bed at 11, don’t text after 9 pm.

2. Don’t make it a sexting thing.

I don’t know exactly what you mean by “urge” but for a lot of guys that translates to the fact that they want to talk dirty to their ex girlfriend. Don’t do it. Sexting her doesn’t really do much as far as making her want you sexually when she is your ex girlfriend and to be honest, that is probably one of the first things that she is going to assume that you are going to do.

3. If you are going to go back and forth a lot of times, just call her up.

You really want to make a good impression on your ex girlfriend? You want to be able to make her feel attraction and rapport? Get her talking to you on the phone. Texts are good for short communication, not long. So, if you are going to end up having a conversation, get her on the phone instead. Avoid the texting back and forth 20 times kind of thing if you can.

Sweet Things to Say to Your Ex Girlfriend – Don’t Overdo It

I had to write this, because I just came across one of those really generic articles, obviously written by a guy who doesn’t get laid much. It was one of those “sweet things to say to your ex girlfriend” pieces and before I landed on it, I already knew what it was going to say. Look, the idea that you were not sweet enough and that is why she broke up with you – that’s a crock. Seriously.

I know. Some guys are complete douchebags when they are in a relationship and maybe for them, coming across a little bit sweeter might work. Might not.

If you are a good guy and she ended the relationship – it probably wasn’t because you weren’t sweet enough. Sweet can easily be overdone.

These kinds of articles always say the same thing

  • Tell her you love her
  • Tell her you miss her
  • Tell her you are thinking about her
  • Etc,

That doesn’t work in most, nearly all situations. Doing that is going to make you seem like just another guy who doesn’t get it. That is NOT the way that you want to come across. You can be a nice guy with an edge and get your ex girlfriend back way faster than some guy who’s going on and on about how much he misses her, how much he loves her, etc.

What DOES work?

Instead of fixating on saying sweet things to your ex girlfriend, why not say things that are going to make her feel attracted to you?

Why not say things that are going to make you look a little more irresistible?

Here is a little bit of what I mean, an example of what I told a guy to say to his ex girlfriend that actually worked… none of that lovey dovey stuff.

Her: So, how’ve you been?

Him: Awesome!

Her: Really? Awesome? That’s good.

Him: Yeah, so how’ve you been?

Her: Bored.

Him: That sucks… you should get out more.

Her: Where am I going to go? I have work and school, you know that.

Him: You’ve got Friday nights free.

Her: Yeah, but where would I go?

Him: (Laughs) Are you asking to tag-along with me?

Her: No… why what are you doing Friday?

Him: Shooting some pool, probably check out this band that is playing later.

Her: I like pool.

Him: Stop begging (laughs). You sound like you are trying to get me to ask you to come along?

Her: (Laughs) Maybe.

Him: I gotta get going… I’ll be at (pool hall name) at 7. Stop in if you want.

Her: Okay.

She showed up. Tagged along with him to see that band. They hooked up. See that? No sappy “I still love you.” No “I miss you so much.”

Sappy doesn’t work most of the time.  Anyone that advises that sappy stuff,  probably doesn’t get much action and probably has never actually gotten an ex girlfriend back.

You want her back?