The texting game is one that you need to learn.
However, it’s not one that anyone’s really going to teach you. It’s another one of those things that you are just supposed to figure out all on your own. And because of that, it’s nearly inevitable that you are going to make a lot of mistakes.
Of course, we can workaround that. Because, we can look at 3 of the most common texting mistakes guys unknowingly make nearly all the time and when you can avoid those … you’ll be much better off.
So are you ready to find out what these 3 texting mistakes are?
The first texting mistake guys unknowingly make is …
They text way too often.
For the most part, texting isn’t like having a phone conversation. You don’t have to go back and forth and back and forth and back and forth. It’s okay to have a time gap in between your texts to a woman.
Having those gaps achieves a few things:
1) It suggests that you are busy and not just sitting around waiting to text her.
2) It gives both you and her time to think about your replies.
3) It takes most of the “pressure” off of a conversation.
Don’t be like most guys and assume that texting her over and over is a good thing. It’s not. If you do, it quickly becomes annoying. It makes you seem like you have no life. And it shows that you aren’t really up on the texting game.
The second texting mistake guys unknowingly make is …
They try to be funny and it doesn’t land.
Words on a screen don’t pack the same punch that spoken words do. When you tell a joke in person, you are giving off signals that you can’t when it’s just words on a screen. There’s no vocal tonality. There’s no emotion on your face. And there’s none of the other body language tells that make it clear you are just joking.
Plenty of times, I’ve heard guys complain about texting a woman what was supposed to be a joke and the woman takes it the wrong way.
Read your text back in several different moods before you send it. If it sounds like it can be taken the wrong way …
Chances are good the joke won’t land well.
If that’s the case, don’t send it.
And the third texting mistake guys unknowingly make is …
They send sexual texts and it gets weird.
If you don’t already know it, women and men don’t usually think of the same things when they think of “dirty talk.” What women think of is usually along the lines of romance and what guys usually think of is along the lines of what you’d read in an adult magazine.
Take a cue from all the politicians and athletes and celebrities who’ve had their sexual texts get taken in a weird way.
Don’t send it.
That’s not to say that you can never have sexual texting (sexting) going on. But you do have to know that most of the time, when guys try it, they end up weirding out the woman and not turning her on.
Okay, so this post isn’t going to give you all that you need to know when it comes to texting women. But it should give you a good jumpstart. Like I said, this is all stuff that you are supposed to figure out all on your own.
And that means most guys screw it up more often than not.
But you won’t be like most guys.
If you avoid these 3 mistakes.