How to Use The Psychology of Loss To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

There’s a POWERFUL psychological principle that can help you to win back a woman you’ve lost.  Once you know how to use it …

It can make getting her back seem downright simple.

Even easy.

We’re all programmed to not want to lose things in life.  At least,  not the things that we find valuable or really want to have.  It’s often referred to as the psychology of loss.

And there are ways to that you can use the psychology of loss to help you win back an ex-girlfriend.

However,  to make it really effective …

You have to be prepared to do one thing and that is …

Let go of the need to be attached to her.

You can’t make the psychology of loss work for you if you are constantly on her,  trying to get her attention or just coming across as being needy.

That kind of takes away from all of the power that using the psychology of loss has.

So let’s dive a little bit deeper,  okay?

The thing that you want your ex-girlfriend to feel is like she might be LOSING you.  And that losing you is a BAD thing for HER.


You have to make it seem like it’s a bad thing for her.

Because there really isn’t much to lose if she sees losing you as being a good thing.

So how do we do that?

You want to show her that you are a valuable guy.  That you are an attractive guy.  But that you have options OTHER than her.  That you are not going to be waiting around for her to come to her senses or decide that she wants to take you back.

If you can do that …

Then you can learn how to use the psychology of loss to your FULL advantage.

And you know what that means right?

It means that getting her back is going to be easy.  Maybe even near effortless.  As long,  of course,  as you are able to stick with the program and not go right back to acting needy and desperate for her attention.

If you’d like to learn more about how to use the psychology of loss to win back an ex-girlfriend fast …

How Do I Let Go Of My Ex Girlfriend If I Still Love Her?

You may have heard that you need to “let go” of an ex girlfriend if you want to be able to win her back.  And while that may sound good at first,  you’ve probably found that it isn’t exactly easy to do.  After all,  if you still feel like you love her,  then the last thing that you want to do is let go,  right?

Well,  you don’t really have to.

At least,  not entirely.

See,  a lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that it means that they have to let go of all the memories of her,  all of the time they had fun together,  and all the feelings that they have.

What you really want to do is to let go of the attachment that you feel.  Let go of the feeling that you need to be with her in order to be happy.  Let go of the need to see her in order to smile.  Let go of the need to hear her say I love you in order to feel good about yourself.

Those are the things that you really need to let go of.  Because,  if you think about it,  they are still there.  You’ll still have memories of her.  You’ll still remember what it was like to hear her say I love you.

But,  the one thing that makes it hard to move on or to even win her back,  is when you feel like you NEED her around you all of the time in order to be happy.

So,  what you really want to do is let go of all the needing.  The desperation.  The yearning.

IF you can do that, then you’ll be in a good position to either win her back or meet someone else and not carry all of that old baggage into a new relationship.

How Do I Get My Ex Girlfriend to Feel Like She Can Trust Me Again?

Question:  I hate to admit this,  but a few months ago,  I cheated on the girl I was dating.  She didn’t find out until recently and when she did,  she got pissed off.  Really mad.  We broke up and at first, she wouldn’t even talk to me.  Now she is talking to me and we still definitely flirt and have chemistry with one another,  but she keeps on saying that she cannot trust me and to her,  that is a big deal.  What can I do to make my ex girlfriend feel like she can trust me again,  because I am pretty sure that if I can win back her trust,  we’d be a couple again.

Answer:  Winning back your ex girlfriend’s trust is not going to be that easy,  especially since it seems like that is one of her things that she considers to be a make or break situation.  That’s not uncommon,  a lot of women will forgive you for a lot of things,  but not for cheating.  However,  it does sound like there is some hope,  because if the chemistry is still there and you are still flirting with her and she is still flirting with you,  then you do have something to work with.

Here are some of my thoughts on what you can do and what you should expect if you want to win back your ex girlfriend’s trust after cheating on her:

1.  Don’t expect that it is going to happen on your timeline,  it is only going to happen on hers.

You really can’t do a woman dirty and cheat on her and then expect her to trust you again when you want her to.  This is a situation where you really do have to work with her timeline.  Some women may take weeks and some may take months.  And the reality is that she might come back to you without fully trusting you.

2.  Don’t give her a reason to expect that you are going to do it again.

You don’t want to flirt with another woman in front of her,  you don’t want to act like you are hiding stuff around her because all of that is going to make her feel like she still cannot trust you.  You have to be clear that you are not going to do anything to make her suspicious of you.

3.  You have to continue to work on that flirting and that chemistry.

If you can make her feel like the chemistry with you is really strong and that flirting with you is more fun than flirting with any other guy,  then you give her a reason to want to try to trust you again.  Like I said,  it may take some time but the more she wants to be with you,  the more likely she is going to at least try to trust you and I don’t think that you can really ask for more than that.