In case you are not already aware of this – the time right after breaking up is probably the most crucial time that there is. If you say the wrong things to your ex girlfriend during this time period, you may end up throwing away ANY chance that you have of being able to win her back.
Countless men have had to learn this the hard way, as they said something in the heat of the moment that made such a lasting mark on their ex girlfriend – she vowed that she would never get back together with them no matter what they did or tried.
I don’t say this to scare you, just to point out a truth that you have to be aware of.
Like it or not, the things that you say right now to her can wind up either making her feel like you are the biggest jerk there is, or make her feel like you still might be the guy for her.
What I think you would want is for her to feel as though you still might be the guy for her. As long as she feels that way, then it kind of ends up being up to you whether or not you win her back. And that is a position that you want to be in.
You want to be the one who makes the final decision about whether or not you will be getting your ex girlfriend back.
Don’t Say Too Much Too Soon…
Another thing that you need to be careful of, is that you don’t say too much to her about the way that you feel too soon. If this is a real break up, and not one of those teenage ones where you get back together like an hour later, then you need to do two things. You need to allow her to have some time away from you so that she can feel what it is like to miss you. You also need to make sure that she is not totally aware of the fact that you want her back. You want to make her wonder what is really on your mind.
Try No Contact with Your Ex Girlfriend for a While…
You may have heard of the no contact rule in terms of a break up and wondered whether or not it is really the way to go. For most situations, it is. When you have no contact you are allowing her to have that time and space that she needs and you are also allowing yourself to cool down and gather your thoughts so that you don’t say something stupid to her in the heat of the moment.
There really is no hard and fast rule to how much time you want to go with no contact, but at the very least you should probably go for at least a week. That way you make sure that you don’t say or do the wrong things in this crucial time.