How Do I Get My Ex Girlfriend to Talk to Me Again – 3 Tips That Work Well

I am going to have to start off by saying that there is no way that you can come up with an *absolute guarantee* that your ex girlfriend is going to talk to you again.

Sometimes the silent treatment from an ex girlfriend does turn out to be a permanent condition and that is one thing that you kind of just have to accept. If you have the unreal expectation that you can “force” your ex girlfriend to talk to you again, I’d have to say that you are probably being a bit unrealistic.

However, there are some things that you can do that will make it a little bit more likely that your ex girlfriend will talk to you again.

As long as you don’t do anything that is going to make her feel like you are “stalking” her or anything like that, then you most likely will be able to get some semblance of conversation going on with her.

That is a good place to start if you want to get her back or if you just want to be sure that things ended on the best of terms.

Here are 3 tips that usually work well to get your ex girlfriend to talk to you again:

1) Before you try and speak to your ex girlfriend again, make sure that you give her an appropriate amount of time with no contact.

Having no contact with your ex girlfriend is big when it comes to break ups. If you are constantly trying to get her to talk to you, then you need to take a break from that for a little while and then come back when there has been a little bit of a time buffer before you try and get her talking to you. Think of it as a kind of “relationship reset” if you will.

2) Start off the conversation nonchalant and about something that she would enjoy talking about.

This is really the best way to break the ice with anyone, but especially an ex girlfriend that has been giving you the silent treatment. Make the conversation about her and not you and don’t immediately get into deep stuff like telling her how much you want to win her back. You need to be a little more reserved than that.

3) Learn how to segue the conversation so that it comes back around to talking about you and her.

This is what really takes practice. If you are not very good at segues when it comes to conversation, then you may want to get good at this. You can have a pretty easy time if you are able to bring things back around full circle to talk about you and her, but only AFTER you have had nonchalant conversation about things that she likes to talk about.


I’m going to give you a 4th tip.  And this is an important one.  Because it has to do with the psychology of dealing with an ex girlfriend.  Because a lot of the success you either have or don’t have,  has a lot to do with the psychology of dealing with an ex girlfriend.

So here it is:

Do NOT get hung up on asking the question,  “Why won’t my ex girlfriend talk to me again,”  over and over again.

It’s one of those questions that you’ll come up with 100 possible answers for.  And it’s highly likely that you still won’t have the right one.  Not only that,  it assumes a final outcome.  It assumes that she’s never going to talk to you again and that’s not necessarily true.