Question: My ex girlfriend says that she is confused when I ask her about getting back together. Usually, she tries to change the subject. Sometimes, she seems like she does want to get back together and other times, it seems like she doesn’t. Will she come back to me or am I just wasting my time?
Answer: It’s pretty common for people to feel confused about exactly the way that they feel right after a break up. I am willing to bet that if you were being honest with yourself, you’d admit that you kind of feel confused from time to time as well.
The first thing that I would suggest is that you try to be patient with your ex girlfriend. If she says she needs some time to think about it, give her that time she needs. Nothing will make her come to a decision faster than you pressuring her, the only thing is – you probably will not like that decision. It’ll probably be that she doesn’t want to come back to you.
Another thing that I would suggest, as hard as it might be, is to try not to make your ex girlfriend be so important to you right now. I know, that can be hard when that is the way that you feel, but if your ex girlfriend is confused about things right now, it might be a good idea to back off at least a bit. And if you don’t have anything else to distract you, that can be hard to do. So, make sure that you are still making time for friends, doing the things that you’d normally do, and even have an eye out for other women.
If you do want to get her back, there are several things that you can do to make that happen, but if you put too much importance on your ex girlfriend or you put too much pressure on her, you might end up making it way harder than it should be or has to be. Will she come back? Maybe, if you do the right things. But, keep an open mind to the possibility that she might not and that you will be fine even if she doesn’t.