My Girlfriend Left Me – What Should I Do Now?

My girlfriend left me.

Those are 4 words that can bring a man down to his knees as it can devastate you to think that she is not going to come back to you.

When you are deeply in love with a woman and she chooses to end the relationship,  it is about the worst thing that can happen to you.  It can make you feel like you have no chance at all of being able to get things right when it comes to a relationship.

It can make you feel like there is nothing that you can do to make things right.

While that may be the way that you feel about things because she left you,  you may be able to find a way to handle this issue better than you think.

What you are going to have to do is realize that just because she left you,  it is not the end of the world.  Although it may seem that way,  there are steps that you can take to make it easier on you to deal with.

Not only that,  there are specific steps that you can take to win her back.  That is something that you really may want to consider.  I mean,  you may be hurt that she left you,  but does that mean that you don’t want to get a second chance with her?

I am sure that if you were being honest with yourself,  you would say that you would want to have a second chance with your ex girlfriend.

You Need to Clear Your Head Right Now…

This is probably the best thing that you can do for yourself and it is something that you can do RIGHT NOW.  You don’t have to wait for the right time,  you can just choose to clear your head and not think about the break up for now.  If you have to,  find something that you can do that will take your mind off of what happened.  When you have a clear mind,  that is when you are more likely to make good decisions about what you should do to try and win her back.

You Need to Know WHY She Left You…

It’s not enough to just know that she left you.  You are going to have to figure out why she decided that it would be better for her to leave than to stay with you.  To do this,  you are going to have to look at things from her perspective and not your own.  You are going to have to judge yourself and your actions so that you can see if there are things that you could have and should have done differently.

Finally,  you also have to have a plan of what you are going to do to get her back…

If you don’t have a plan of what you are going to do,  you really can’t expect to be too successful,  can you?

Here is your plan:

What If My Ex Girlfriend Texted That She Misses Me?

Question: I got the weirdest text the other day from my ex girlfriend. It said that she missed me. I kind of didn’t know what to text back because I wanted to try to act like it wasn’t really that big of a deal, but it really was. I miss her too and I would like to be able to date her again. My question is, what would be a good response to send her if my ex girlfriend texted that she misses me?

Answer: The first thing I would say is that quite often it can be a good sign to have your ex girlfriend send you a text message that she misses you, however, I wouldn’t read too much into it just yet. A lot of women will have one of those lonely nights after a break up, send their ex boyfriend a message saying that they miss them, but by the next day … act like they don’t feel that way at all. And that usually makes the guy feel all confused and like he doesn’t know what to do.

Playing it cool is usually a good thing to do. You don’t want to take her sending you a text that she misses you as being a sign that you can just pour out your heart and forget about all of the things that you need to do in order to win her back. Like I said, that can be a good sign, but it can also be just a passing moment and the next day or a few days later, she might not really feel the same way that she felt when she sent you that text saying that she missed you.

One of the best things that you can do, is to use texting as a way to build up her attraction so that you know it is not just a passing phase. In order to do that, you want to stay away from sending her things that can be misconstrued as a sign of you not really being able to move on. Something a little fun and playful, without the risk of hurting her feelings can be a good idea.

So, if your ex girlfriend sends a text that she misses you, you can send her something back like:

That’s cute. You miss me. So, whatcha up to?

And see if she responds back. They key is to see if she responds back to that and how she responds. If she acts like her text was a mistake, and just one of those weak moments, that’s not really a good thing. If she responds with something playful back, like she wants to flirt with you, that can be a good thing and that is a good time to really try to turn things up a bit to see if you can really make her feel attracted to you again.

Should I Try to Be Casual When Talking to My Ex Girlfriend?

Question:  I am pretty nervous for some reason when I am talking to my ex girlfriend.  I don’t know why that is.  I wasn’t nervous talking to her when we were dating.  I am starting to feel like that nervousness while speaking to her is probably hurting my chances of being able to get her back.  Should I try to be casual when I talk to my ex girlfriend?

Answer:  YES!  You should be casual when you talk to her.  It will increase the chances of you being able to get her back.  There is a good reason why you feel nervous around her now when you used not to when you were dating her.  When you were dating her,  you knew that she was your girl.  You knew that she liked you.  The moment that a woman breaks up with you,  you no longer know that.  She isn’t your girl.  She becomes a woman you are trying to impress and you are trying to get her to like you.

That’s why you get nervous when talking to your ex girlfriend.  And yes,  it does hurt your chances of being able to get her back.  Now,  on the other hand if you can be totally cool and casual –  you will increase the odds that she’ll come back to you.

Here’s why you want to be casual around your ex girlfriend:

Women FEED OFF of the VIBES that you are giving off.  They just do.  So,  when you start to act nervous around your ex girlfriend,  it makes her feel nervous.  However,  it’s not the “I have butterflies in my stomach because I like him” kind of nervous,  it’s the “this feels awkward” kind of nervous.

That feeling makes her want to GET AWAY from you.

Obviously,  that is not what you want to do.  You do not want your ex girlfriend to feel like being around you is awkward.  You want her to feel comfortable around you.  At the same time,  you want to make her feel that butterflies in the stomach kind of feeling,  but that only comes when you act casual and confident around your ex girlfriend.