What If My Girlfriend Says That We Need a Break?

Question:  My girlfriend started to hint at the idea of taking a break from each other for a little while.  I get the feeling that this is just an easy way of her dumping me without actually having to dump me.  Do you think I am right and what can I do because I really don’t want to end up losing her?

Answer:  Yeah,  when a woman you are dating says that you need to take a break,  it is not a good sign,  that is for sure.  No woman who is truly in love and happy with the guy she is dating says that they should take a break.

Most likely you are right in feeling as though this is her way of taking the easy road as far as breaking up goes.  What you need to do,  is to try to put your finger on why it is that she feels that way.

See,  if you don’t know what the problem is,  you can’t really fix the problem.  That would be where I would start.  Take a look at what has happened recently between you and her.

  • Have you been fighting a lot?
  • Do you spend time with one another or do you go off and do your own thing?
  • Is there an issue that has come up but neither one of you are ready to face it?

If you don’t want to lose her,  then you have to be able to face the reality of the situation.

You have to face the reality that this is basically a break up situation,  that there must have been something that was happening or not happening to make her feel like taking a break is the right thing to do,  and you have to figure out what you can do to change the way that she feels.

Most of the time,  when a woman says that she wants to take a break from the relationship,  it means that she is ending it for good.

There ARE things that you can do to change her mind.  And the quicker you can figure out what it is that you need to do – the better.  The more she drifts away from you right now,  the more likely it is that she is going to be on the lookout for a new guy.

It’s much harder to patch things up with a woman when she is in the state of mind where she really wants to find a new guy.  That’s not to say that you should pester her for attention right now.

You need to know what needs fixing and what you can do to make her feel MORE ATTRACTED to you so that she wants to work things out with you.